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The H.E.A.R.D. Patient Advocacy Worksheet
Organize your symptom story, identify what is different, and use five conversation anchors when you need the visit to stay focused.
Download PDF ↓PATIENT ADVOCACY • COMMUNICATION • PREPARATION
You deserve to be heard.
It may be anxiety. It may be something else. Either way, your symptoms deserve a real conversation.
These tools won't diagnose you or turn every “no” into a “yes.” They will help you prepare, describe what has changed, ask clearer questions, understand the reasoning, and leave knowing what happens next.
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A SIMPLE GOAL
Prepare your story.
Ask clear questions.
Leave with a plan.
Being heard does not always mean hearing “yes.”
It means understanding the reasoning and the plan.
FOR COMMUNICATION + PREPARATION ONLY
These resources are not medical advice and do not create a patient-provider relationship.
FREE PATIENT ADVOCACY TOOLKIT
Take something useful into the room with you.
Four practical, printable tools for before, during, and after a medical visit. Start with the one you need today — or grab all four.
PHRASE BANK
Questions You Can Ask
Plain-language prompts for diagnosis, watchful waiting, normal tests, anxiety in the conversation, and the four questions to ask before you leave.
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CLOSE THE LOOP
My Visit Notes + Follow-Up Plan
Capture what was discussed, what was ordered, medication changes, who owns each next step, and when you should follow up.
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FOR YOUR PERSON
Be Their M.A.N.
A guide for the friend, partner, parent, or other support person who is there to listen, remember, organize, and speak up only when wanted.
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Want the whole set?
One eight-page PDF with the complete toolkit, plus the individual downloads above.
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A CONVERSATION FRAMEWORK
Get H.E.A.R.D.
H.E.A.R.D. is not a script and it is not a demand for a particular diagnosis. It is a way to keep the conversation anchored to what is happening, what has changed, and what comes next.
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Honor the possibility
Acknowledge a possible explanation without giving up the rest of the question.
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Explain what is different
Anchor the discussion to what is new, changing, specific, or patterned.
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Ask what has been ruled out
Ask what the current evaluation does — and does not — tell you.
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Request a plan
Leave knowing the next step, the timeline, and who owns each piece.
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Document the decision
Make sure the symptoms, plan, and follow-up are accurately captured.
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What important conditions have we ruled out so far, and what would make you investigate further?
A question can be firm without being adversarial.
BRING BACKUP
Be their M.A.N.
Medical Advocacy Navigator.
The patient leads. You support.
Your job is not to take over the appointment. It is to be an extra set of ears, a note-taker, a reminder, and — when the patient wants it — a voice that helps bring the conversation back to what matters.
✓ Agree on your role before the visit
✓ Let the patient answer first
✓ Take notes on the plan and follow-up
✓ Help close the loop afterward
Download the M.A.N. guide
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A NOTE ABOUT ADVOCACY
Being heard is not the same as getting what you ask for.
Good care can still include watchful waiting, a normal test result, or a recommendation you did not expect. Advocacy is about having your concern understood, the reasoning explained, the next step defined, and a path for reassessment if things change.
COMING NOVEMBER 17, 2026
THE NOVEL BEHIND THE IDEA
Rent-A-M.A.N.
She hired him because doctors listen to men.
She falls for him because he listens to her.
Sadie Evans has spent years being told some version of the same thing: It's just anxiety. When a very unexpected advocate finally helps her get heard, Sadie's frustration turns into a patient-advocacy project — and an equally unexpected romance.
The book is fiction. The need to communicate clearly, ask better questions, and feel heard is very real. This site is the practical, real-world companion to that idea.
ABOUT THIS PROJECT
A little less “be a difficult patient.”
A lot more “make the conversation work.”
It's Not Just Anxiety is a patient-advocacy resource project created by Micky O'Brady, a pediatrician and author. The resources are designed to help people organize information, communicate concerns, and understand follow-up — not to diagnose symptoms or replace medical care.
Meet Micky O'Brady ↗BEFORE YOUR NEXT VISIT
Write down the story you do not want to forget once the room gets busy.
Pick your top questions. Track what changed. Bring backup if you want it. And before you leave, make sure you know what happens next.